Special Guest: Nicholas Tanek

Tonight join Mistress Schari and Nicholas Tanek, author and Host of Your Kinky Friends Podcast as they discuss a very sensitive yet important subject in our kink community. PRIVACY.

Tonight we discuss why discretion is necessary and how very fragile it is. Maintaining privacy can sometimes take tremendous effort, I mean there is a whole fetish built around "getting caught in public". The consequences of being "outed" and the risks we take going public can sometimes spark movements. This is a conversation that doesn't just permeate the Kink Community, it stretches across "all the aisles" and connects us all. So please tune in as we discuss whether privacy and kink can coexist.

Darren Campbell

Mistress Schari and Catnip have an incredible conversation tonight about a very serious subject... Toxic Masculinity. Two words that get tossed around a lot lately, but do we really understand what it means and how to create safe spaces for persons of all genders to communicate effectively with each other. Joining our conversation is Darren Campbell (he/him) is a sexuality and relationship educator and coach based out of Toronto, Ontario. The conversation around toxic masculinity gives us language and tools to deal with the lies society tells us about how to be men. These lies and narratives impact every aspect of life and cause a lot of harm in our relationships with ourselves and each other. By talking about healthy masculinity and by using tools available to us we can create a world that reduces harm and gives each of us (men and non-men alike) permission to pursue our authentic bliss. Addressing the ways the patriarchy and it’s close cousins white supremacy and colonialism are actively harming us is one of the most important things we can do in pursuit of our own path and creating a more equitable, just world.  Darren is a proudly queer, non-monogamous, pleasure-affirming community member who loves to facilitate discussions and experiences that strengthen relationships and encourage a sense of curiosity and exploration. His education and coaching areas of focus include self-love & acceptance, consent, communication, non-monogamy, & power exchange. An intersectional lens informs Darren’s coaching and workshop facilitation, recognizing that we live in a complex world with many identities, needs, and desires, and are often subject to systems that actively cause us harm. Darren is invested in growing his anti-oppressive practices and welcomes any feedback on how to make his teachings more accessible and inclusive.  In his classes and coaching, Darren provides participants with tools and examples that help them communicate more clearly and authentically with themselves and their partners. Darren believes that a collaborative approach, focused on creating a sense of safety and shared vulnerability, is the key to great sex, connection, and a love-filled life.

March 21, 2023 Show

Sir Ezra Algos

Join Mistress Schari and Catnip_boi for tonight's chat on the importance of education in kink. the value, the social aspects, the fun, and how it fosters community. We are so excited about our guest too! Sir Ezra Algos is a Life and Intimacy Coach at AskEzra.info. They identify as non-binary, polyamorous, omnisexual, and kinky. Ezra has more than 10 years experience as a polyamorous lifestyle Dominant. They are also the Director of Education at Sanctuary LAX Studios and co-founded the Triskelion Scholarship for BDSM education, which is currently in its third year. Ezra authored Mindfucking Mindfully and they host the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast. They are the founder of Radical Sexual Acceptance, an approach to building acceptance around sexuality and gender through coaching. Currently they are conducting clinical sexology research on the efficacy of Radical Sexual Acceptance. Ezra’s Coaching practice focuses on empowering people in their personal growth, sexual discovery, self acceptance, and living life to its fullest.

February 21, 2023 Show

Mischief Matters Radio is discussing generational age gaps in relationships tonight and how in lifestyle relationships it's often something we choose because we count on it for certain experiences. For instance, a younger person may deliberately be attracted to an older person because they will naturally be better navigators for adulting. While an older person may choose a younger person because it brings out their own vitality and exuberance for life. Whatever the case may be, age gaps are common and worth discussing. We will also be joined by Billy Lore who will be leading a workshop for us in March, Better Bottoming w/Billy. Billy is a Philly-based sex educator and porn maker with an overdeveloped sense of curiosity and a big mouth. He centers trans pleasure, authentic communication, playful kink, and queer joy in all of his work, while his teaching style prioritizes inclusivity, accessibility, harm-reduction, and humor. He uses storytelling to engage the audience, and metaphors and pop culture references to break down complex topics into digestible concepts. You can find him engaging in dorky discourse on sex, dating, and masturbating every week on The Dildorks and you can follow him online at @BillyLore on Twitter, @BillyLore_ on instagram, and www.billylore.com
 

Lady Steele, Esq.

We are starting off the new year with a peek into Kink and the Law with the foremost expert on the subject, Attorney lady Steele. Lady Steele is a femme lesbian Alpha leather slave with multiple neurovariances. She is an international presenter and resides in Atlanta where she is the only out, open, and practicing attorney in the U.S. that specializes in the issues that are unique to the BDSM and ENM communities. She is the founder of the Center of Learning and School of Success (C.L.A.S.S.), the Worthless Bastards (Cigar) Club (W.B.C. – Atlanta), and The Leather Coterie (T.L.C.). She proudly founded and leads the West Inclusive Georgia Socials (WINGS) group. Lady Steele has held various positions in both the former chapter of NLA - Atlanta and the Leather Leadership Conference. She continues to give back to the community through multiple appearances on the KinkyCast, Kuldrin's Krypt, Dating Kinky, Excite Me, Black to Leather, and Pink Kink podcasts. Lady Steele is also a proud Associate Member of Onyx Pearls - Southern Leather.

This month Mistress Schari talks crossdressing and feminization with The Cherry Bomb, a cis-gendered female and enthusiast of crossdressing fetishists.  The Cherry Bomb, also known as Cbombz on Fetlife, entered the kink world several years ago when she discovered that she had an attraction to men in stockings after her then lover tried on a pair, along with heels and panties. As she watched the world of the masculine and feminine collide, she immediately felt at home in a new culture that she never knew existed. Since then, she has dated, befriended and admired men who enjoy dressing up as women. She feels like an advocate and a supporter to anyone who wants to explore their inner femme, so much so that she began hosting a podcast called “Conversations with Crossdressers,” where she conducts one on one interviews with CDs from all walks of life. You can find links to her profile and podcasts here:

https://thecherrybomb11.podbean.com/    https://fetlife.com/users/9720978

Join us as Mistress Schari and catnip interview one of our own. Dr. Bob is a frequent member of the Skyland's Munch Group and he has years of experience with Erotic Hypnosis and he is going to talk about it with us, so tune in. Dr. Bob first learned hypnotism in college in the '60s. He is also an avid reader on the subject and attends events like the New England Erotic Hypnosis Unconvention. He is not a therapist of any kind, but likes to put people under for mutual enjoyment. With wiling subjects, it can be fun and exciting. He has helped people orgasm when they were not expecting to and to have a bigger, stronger and longer climax than they have ever had. To make people quack like a duck and bark like a dog are just for the vanilla world. The real fun is using his talents to enhance BDSM activities.

I am so excited for tonight's show because we get to speak with one of our favorite guests, Nookie. Nookie is an accomplished author of several lifestyle books and the owner and creator of www.DatingKinky.com  Tonight Nookie and I will be discussing BOUNDARIES. How setting boundaries can reduce relationship drama & abuse, make you MORE loveable (not less) and give you more energy and love for the RIGHT activities (and people). Join us as we discuss setting and maintaining personal boundaries.

August 17, 2022 Show

Mischief Matters is proud to announce the grand opening of

Mischief Manor!

 Hear all about it on tonight's show. We will be promoting social parties, in-person education and rentals for boudoir photography. So join us to hear all about New Jersey's exclusive kink spot, Mischief Manor.
 

Catnip and I recently attended TESFest, one of the oldest kink conventions in the US and our first back in the scene since the lockdowns. It's always very impressive to me how these conventions are run and I am amazed that there are often waitlists to volunteer at such events. So tonight we have a young man who recently volunteered at TESFest so we can find out what it's like to volunteer for a kinky convention.

So we welcome, Chef, a 28 year old switch from NJ.As you might get from the name Chef has a passion for cooking and has spent 8 years travelling the country cooking in different types of restaurants. His next adventure has been to explore the world of kink.

This month on Mischief Matters Radio,

Mistress Schari talks with Catnip about pride,

a little history, a little education, and a little laughs.

Check us out for Rainbows and catnip!!

Join Mistress Schari and her faithful sidekick catnip for a fun conversation about kink, burlesque, belly dancing, pole and tattoos. We are joined by Amanda the owner of Flight Risk Aerials in Randolph, NJ. We chat about how kink and burlesque cross paths and talk about kinky tattoos.

For more information on Flight Risk Aerials www.flightriskaerials.com

www.prophetelijahburlesque.com   

@flightriskaerials.com

@ProphetElijahburlesque

March 16, 2022 Show

Rose C. Carole

Tonight Mistress Schari interviews erotic author Rose C. Carole. Rose is a published author who often uses her own experiences as inspiration for her books. She and Mistress Schari discuss how erotic writing has evolved from the Story of O to 50 Shades of Grey and its impact on current culture. Pour a glass of wine and listen in.

Rose C. Carole is an award winning author. She had the Best Book of the Year 2015 from the BDSM Writers Con; was a finalist in the Passionate Plume Contest Best BDSM Book 2018 from Passionate Inc, a division of the Romance Writers of America; and a finalist in the Beverly Awards for Best Erotic Writers from Colorado Romance Writers. For a link to her books on Amazon start here. Catering to His Needs (Kitchen Confessions)

 https://www.amazon.com/dp/1784309184/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_477G95ZTD5EZVZ5MS64K

Special Guest: Mistress Zeneca

This month Mistress Schari and catnip will be talking too Mistress Zeneca organizer of Philly’s longest running BDSM Club and Swingers events, Cherry Noir. Listen in as they discuss the future of kink events post COVID, what Cherry Noir is brewing for the future and all things kinky. Check out Cherry Noir on Facebook and listen to Mistress Zeneca on her podcast “The Dead TV Podcast” where she discusses cancelled TV shows of the horror, sci and fantasy genre.

www.ElegantlyKinky.com